Why You Are Weak, And How To Get Stronger!

The fact that you're reading this now means that there is some kind of curiosity inside of you that wants to become better and also acknowledges that you have weak points.

Don't worry, you're not different, you're just like a lot of other people.

45 percent of people have not felt true happiness for more than two years and 25 percent don't know, or have forgotten, what it means to feel truly happy.

88 percent are looking for new experiences to make them smile and laugh.

People are prioritizing health (80 percent), personal connections (79 percent), and experiences (53 percent) to gain happiness.

The increase in medicine worldwide is also shocking.

Over the past decade, medicine use, measured in defined daily doses, has grown by 36%.

But what does this mean?

The rise in medication use might be a sign that people are struggling to cope and need additional support beyond medicine.

While experiences are fun, they might be a temporary fix.

I personally see this around me: people who rather cope with drugs, prescription medication, or alcohol, people who avoid reality by partying all the time or consistently trying to get distracted.

I think that a lot of people lack the courage to face reality.

People are becoming more and more dependent.

But how can you fix that?

How can you become stronger as a person?

That is the topic we are going to dive into today.

Through the topics:

• Why we are weak

• Face reality

• Train yourself

After this article, you will learn to accept and follow through a bit better!

Why We Are Weak

People struggle with complexity.

If it's not managed, complexity can cause suffering.

The less control you have over it, the more miserable you may feel.

This misery can compound; the more miserable you feel, the less complexity you can handle, and vice versa.

If you never learn to deal with life's complexities, you never truly learn to deal with life.

It's a vicious cycle that will continue to spiral downwards until you break it.

The problem is that it's easier now to avoid complexities, to sidestep the challenging parts of life, and to live a more sheltered existence.

Reflect on your own life: what are the things you've achieved that required real effort?

Those are the things that made you stronger!

The things that were fixed for you by your parents or others made you weaker, because they shielded you from life's complexities that you needed to learn to handle.

The more that is done for you, the more dependent you become on others.

The things I've achieved now - standing on my own as a self-employed individual, gaining sales experience, participating in theater plays, building relationships - these are things I received help with but ultimately resolved myself.

That's why they are my achievements.

Almost a year ago, I was kicked out of school.

Now, I am far greater than I was a year ago, because I chose to face life's complexities instead of avoiding them and going back to my parents.

Face Reality

It glimpsed through a bit, in the end of the previous part of this article “dealing with the given complexities, dealing with life” but what does that really mean?

It means, look at your current situation with a rational perspective, and fix the basics, do the required actions to get better.

If you feel depressed, sad or whatever, go back to the most basic fundamentals.

• Do I eat well?

• Do I sleep well?

• Do I exercise enough?

• Do I have loving people or supportive relations that I have contact with?

If you don't fix those things first, it's logical that you cannot deal with given complexities.

Of course, life can happen, and life is not always fun, and that is the way life works.

Having the emotional ups and downs is a part of life, it is a part of being human.

Be glad that you're able to experience every part of it, Yin cannot exist without Yang.

Something that I do regularly now is: saying to myself “And that is okay”, when I have a certain feeling or experience things that can be overwhelming.

In this way, I can acknowledge them, accept them, and in that way deal with them.

Accept your feelings, face yourself with reality with the question.

What are the things right now that need to be done?

With the fundamentals in mind, and then do it.

Train Yourself

How do you train yourself to take action?

How do you train yourself to deal with life?

Here's a suggestion: go to Starbucks and ask for a discount.

You know the answer is no, and that's exactly why you need to do it.

If you learn to deal with rejection, you will learn to deal with a 'no', and will find easier ways in life to create your 'yes'.

Do things that you don’t like.

When I was a kid in high school, my parents always made me cycle to school no matter the weather.

Through wind, rain, thunder, snow, ice, no matter what, I always needed to cycle.

"You are not made of sugar," is what they said.

As much as I hated them for it then, I am thankful for it now.

These are the things that make you stronger.

Learn to work, learn to do the things you don’t want to do.

Go to the gym when you don’t want to and create a stronger version of yourself.

Sometimes we need to disagree and commit.

You are allowed to disagree while a decision is being made, but once a decision has been made, everybody must commit to implementing the decision.

How Do You Want to Create Yourself?

In wrapping up our discussion, it's clear that our journey through life isn't just about identifying weaknesses or confronting challenges; it's about actively shaping ourselves.

We’ve seen that many rely on temporary fixes or medications to cope, but true growth comes from facing life's complexities head-on.

Consider this: every challenge you meet is an opportunity to mold your character.

Will you be shaped by circumstances, or will you shape yourself?

In life's theater, are you merely a spectator, or are you scripting your own story?

As we conclude, I ask you: How do you want to create yourself?

This question is a call to action.

Think about the person you aim to be and the life you want to lead.

So, how do you want to create yourself?

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I wish you a good day - Job Baltes.