Tools for Emotional Maturity: From Overwhelmed to Empowered!

I have moments when I experience some sort of anxiety attack, where I find myself staring at my wall with a buzzing head, and simultaneously feeling empty inside.

These are moments when I feel overwhelmed, having had too much stimulation in a day, week, or month, and it all comes out at once because I've been suppressing my feelings for an extended period.

I often feel lost, questioning why I do what I do, and why I work so hard when there might be easier routes available.

Instead, I choose a path with many bumps and few shortcuts, accompanied by feelings of loneliness.

How do you deal with all of this?

What I am learning and currently working on are ways of dealing with this.

If you constantly confront yourself with who you want to be, and know what you need to do to become that person, it helps me stay on track.

Accepting your feelings and circumstances is okay, it's how you deal with them that matters most.

That's why we will dive into three topics that help me a lot in dealing with the mess, and help me confront who I want to be.

The topics are:

• Embracing The Feeling

• Dealing With The Feeling

• Preventing The Feeling

After this, you will have tools and thought processes that will help you with your emotional maturity and being.

Embracing The Feeling

The title itself already speaks to the first step of dealing with your emotions: embrace the feelings that you have, never fight against them.

Fighting against feelings will cost us more energy than embracing them.

When you embrace a feeling, you're not led by it.

You create more room to move for yourself.

You are not your emotions; you have emotions that you can embrace.

Stop saying to yourself "I am" if it is not of benefit to you.

If you do that, "I am scared.

I am anxious," you become a product of your own emotions in a way that holds you back.

Why?

Because you identify yourself with them. Start saying things like:

• I have a feeling of…

• I experience…

This made a radical difference for me personally.

Because in this way, you give yourself the opportunity to have the emotion, you can embrace it after identifying it.

This will give you more rest in your head and make it easier to move from there.

Every relationship needs acknowledgement, even the one between you and your emotions.

Identify and embrace.

Dealing With The Feeling

Dealing with feelings is something I struggled a lot with, that strange thing you have but can't place anywhere.

Sometimes, I didn't even know what it was that I was feeling.

But if you want to deal with a feeling, you must know what feeling you have.

I was so bad at recognizing what I felt that at some point, I always carried a list with me with names of emotions on it.

Now, I could actively identify how I felt.

If you know what feeling you have, you know what you can embrace.

If you embrace the emotion and therefore accept that you have it, you can let it go more easily and start doing.

Action drives out thought.

Accepting your emotion and then constantly thinking about it will not help you.

Accept the emotion and start doing things:

• Work,

• Go to the gym,

• Build something,

and the emotion you have will naturally flow away.

At least this works for me, when I start feeling lost, or when my thoughts fly everywhere.

I identify, accept, and therefore acknowledge so it becomes more peaceful, then I start doing.

Action drives out thought, I can’t say it enough.

Preventing The Feeling

Feelings come from trigger points; something you see, hear, or do triggers a feeling.

If you know you have certain trigger points, avoid them.

If you can't accept the feeling that you have, knowing beforehand can help you mentally prepare.

When I feel lost, which I know will happen now and then, I take my map.

My map is my vision board, written out and visual, in this way I can trigger myself to get back on track.

When I look at my vision when I am not lost, I am actively preventing getting lost.

My personal in-depth vision helps me push through.

You can always work with anchor points or tokens.

For me, my glasses case is an anchor point or token, however you want to call it.

Why?

Because I bought that case in Portugal on a vacation with my family.

That was also a vacation where I woke up early, worked on my articles, and edited my videos.

The two things I learned from that is that I love working abroad and the importance of loved ones when we go out and eat together.

It made me realize that I wanted to be able to give to my loved ones, and want to be able to work and live abroad.

My glasses case reminds me of that.

It anchors a memory and it is a token that helps me work towards the things I want and keep on getting reminded of that every time I need my glasses.

It helps me prevent and it helps me to motivate.

Emotional Majority

Having the knowledge shared is one thing, but the magic lies in implementation.

Look for what fits "my life" in this article. What do "I" need to become emotionally more mature?

It could be identifying and recognising emotions, as I did.

Or is it about dealing with emotions?

If so, I would recommend embracing them and seeing what that brings.

In this way, you stop fighting against your emotions, which is an improvement.

And of course, take action, do things, because: ACTION DRIVES OUT THOUGHT.

What I will say is that it's worth your time for everyone to get a vision and to make use of some anchor points/tokens.

I am not a therapist, I am a man on a mission who shares what works for him.

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I wish you a good day - Job Baltes.